Hong Kong to Australia and back.
Hong Kong to Europe.
Three Eurasian daughters.
Two Portuguese water dogs.
One Gweilo husband.
Everything else happened in between.
Essays on marriage, motherhood, sex, travel and the impossible work of holding a house.
Explore the bookCities. Daughters. Marriage. Airports. Dogs. Small moments that became a life.
Maintenance isn’t sex. It’s placement. I don’t clear him because I owe him. I clear him because this is my house.
I place myself. I place him. The house changes when I do.
A body of research across biology, neuroscience, behavioural science, anthropology, and physics informs Placement.
On bond and and nervous system regulation.
Plain language on oxytocin, dopamine and prolactin in placement.
On sex, embodied power and feminine leadership. (Part One)
In humans and other mammals, orgasm exists as a reward for mating. Hormones deliver reward. With direction and placement, reward is constant.
On the core architecture of placement.
I was born in Hong Kong.
I grew up in Canberra and attended University in Melbourne before returning home. I lead in retail, sales, and private banking.
Then I met a Gweilo and made him mine.
These books follow the life that unfolded afterwards.
Hong Kong.
Australia.
Portugal.
Germany.
France.
Food appears often.
So do daughters,
dogs,
airports,
start-ups,
markets,
restaurants,
hotels,
marriage,
sex,
aging,
and the work of holding a house.
Some essays begin with a city.
Most end somewhere else.
Some of my essays make me laugh.
Some make me proud.
Some quietly devastate me still.
All of them are personal.
Alongside these books,
I publish research on Power 權力, Gravity 重力, and Placement 放置 through SSRN.
My essays are first published at SHEHOLDS 她拿著 and collected here in book form.
I live in Europe with my husband,
our daughters,
and our dogs.
Some later find their way into books. Most begin with a city and end somewhere else.
View all writingMost weeks I publish a new essay.
Sometimes it is about food.
Sometimes it is about daughters.
Sometimes it is about marriage, travel, sex, grief, aging, dogs, airports, or finding home in a new country.
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