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What women already know

Essays on marriage, motherhood, sex, travel and the impossible work of holding a house.

Thirty-three essays.

Hong Kong.
Sydney.
Canberra.
Paris.
Bordeaux.
Porto.

A husband.

Three daughters.

Airports.
Hotels.
Restaurants.
Markets.

A woman holding all of it.

Children arrive.
Parents age.
Bodies change.
A marriage survives.

These essays follow a life as it happened.

Some are funny.
Some are tender.
Some are sexual.
Some rage.
Some still make me cry.

Taken separately, they are small moments.

Read together, they are a life.

Formats: PDF and EPUB

Length: approximately 18,000 words

Contents: 33 essays


Notes from Lai Yin

Most weeks I publish a new essay.

Sometimes it is about food.
Sometimes it is about daughters.
Sometimes it is about marriage, travel, sex, grief, aging, dogs, airports, or finding home in a new country.

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